{"id":3489,"date":"2026-09-12T13:17:59","date_gmt":"2026-09-12T10:17:59","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.ozelegitim.org\/?p=3489"},"modified":"2026-09-12T13:17:59","modified_gmt":"2026-09-12T10:17:59","slug":"cocugunuzun-ritmini-duyabiliyor-musunuz","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.ozelegitim.org\/index.php\/2026\/09\/12\/cocugunuzun-ritmini-duyabiliyor-musunuz\/","title":{"rendered":"\u00c7ocu\u011funuzun Ritmini Duyabiliyor Musunuz?"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bazen bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun ne s\u00f6yledi\u011fini anlamak i\u00e7in kelimelerine de\u011fil, <strong>ritmine<\/strong> bakmak gerekir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sabah evden \u00e7\u0131kmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131rken ayakkab\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc giymeyen, sofrada s\u00fcrekli k\u0131p\u0131rdanan, uyku saati geldi\u011finde bir t\u00fcrl\u00fc sakinle\u015femeyen ya da tam tersine saatlerce kendi d\u00fcnyas\u0131nda sessizce oynayan bir \u00e7ocuk d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcn\u00fcn.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ebeveyn olarak ilk akl\u0131m\u0131zdan ge\u00e7enler \u00e7o\u011fu zaman birbirine benzer:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cYine oyalan\u0131yor.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cBeni hi\u00e7 dinlemiyor.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cNe kadar hareketli.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cNeden bu kadar yava\u015f?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cBir t\u00fcrl\u00fc bizim tempomuza ayak uyduram\u0131yor.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Peki ya bir an durup ba\u015fka bir soru sorsak:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Acaba biz onun ritmini duyabiliyor muyuz?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n da kendilerine \u00f6zg\u00fc bir temposu vard\u0131r. Kimi \u00e7ocuk g\u00fcne yava\u015f ba\u015flar, kimi \u00e7ocuk sabah\u0131n ilk dakikas\u0131ndan itibaren hareketlidir. Kimi bir etkinlikten di\u011ferine kolayca ge\u00e7erken kimi yapt\u0131\u011f\u0131 i\u015fi b\u0131rakmakta zorlan\u0131r. Kimi kalabal\u0131k ve g\u00fcr\u00fclt\u00fcl\u00fc ortamlarda h\u0131zlan\u0131r, kimi ise b\u00f6yle ortamlarda i\u00e7ine kapan\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bunlar\u0131n her biri bize \u00e7ocu\u011fun d\u00fcnyas\u0131 hakk\u0131nda bir \u015feyler s\u00f6yleyebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Ritim yaln\u0131zca m\u00fczikte de\u011fildir<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ritim deyince \u00e7o\u011fumuzun akl\u0131na m\u00fczik, davul, alk\u0131\u015f ya da dans gelir. Oysa ya\u015fam\u0131n kendisi ritimlerle doludur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Uyumak ve uyanmak\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ac\u0131kmak ve yemek yemek\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hareket etmek ve dinlenmek\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Konu\u015fmak ve kar\u015f\u0131dakini dinlemek\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Yakla\u015fmak ve biraz uzakla\u015fmak\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Oynamak ve durmak\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocuk da b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131n i\u00e7erisinde kendi ritmini olu\u015fturur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir bebe\u011fin annesinin sesini duydu\u011funda sakinle\u015fmesi, bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun her gece ayn\u0131 uyku rutininden sonra daha kolay uykuya ge\u00e7mesi, bir ba\u015fka \u00e7ocu\u011fun sallan\u0131rken rahatlamas\u0131 bile ritimle ili\u015fkilidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc <strong>ritim, d\u00fcnyay\u0131 daha \u00f6ng\u00f6r\u00fclebilir ve d\u00fczenli hale getirir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocuk i\u00e7in \u00f6ng\u00f6r\u00fclebilirlik ise \u00e7o\u011fu zaman g\u00fcven duygusunu destekler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu nedenle baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar ayn\u0131 hik\u00e2yeyi her gece tekrar tekrar dinlemek ister. Ayn\u0131 \u015fark\u0131n\u0131n a\u00e7\u0131lmas\u0131na sevinir. Oyuncak arabas\u0131n\u0131 ayn\u0131 yoldan defalarca ge\u00e7irir. Uyku \u00f6ncesinde hep ayn\u0131 s\u0131ran\u0131n olmas\u0131n\u0131 bekler.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Biz yeti\u015fkinler i\u00e7in \u201cyine mi ayn\u0131 \u015fey?\u201d olan durum, \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in \u201cne olaca\u011f\u0131n\u0131 biliyorum\u201d anlam\u0131na gelebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Her \u00e7ocuk ayn\u0131 tempoda ilerlemek zorunda de\u011fil<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">G\u00fcnl\u00fck hayat\u0131n i\u00e7inde \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n temposunu yeti\u015fkinlerin temposuyla kar\u015f\u0131la\u015ft\u0131rmak \u00e7ok kolayd\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sabah saat 8.00.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Anne i\u015fe yeti\u015fmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Baba haz\u0131rlan\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocu\u011fun okula gitmesi gerekiyor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cHaydi \u00e7abuk.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cDi\u015flerini f\u0131r\u00e7ala.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201c\u00c7antan\u0131 al.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201c\u00c7orab\u0131n\u0131 giy.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cDaha bitmedi mi?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cGe\u00e7 kal\u0131yoruz!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir yeti\u015fkin i\u00e7in bunlar hayat\u0131n ola\u011fan ak\u0131\u015f\u0131 olabilir. Ancak \u00e7ocuk a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan arka arkaya gelen bu y\u00f6nergeler olduk\u00e7a yo\u011fun bir tempoya d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6zellikle ge\u00e7i\u015flerde zorlanan bir \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in \u201coyunu b\u0131rak\u0131p haz\u0131rlanmak\u201d, yaln\u0131zca bir davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmek de\u011fildir. \u00c7ocu\u011fun zihinsel ve duygusal olarak bir durumdan ba\u015fka bir duruma ge\u00e7mesi gerekir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Tam o s\u0131rada \u00e7ocuk yere oturup oyunca\u011f\u0131yla oynamaya devam ediyorsa, bunu yaln\u0131zca \u201cinat\u201d olarak g\u00f6rmek yerine \u015funu da d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnebiliriz:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cGe\u00e7i\u015f yapmak onun i\u00e7in zor olabilir mi?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki de \u00e7ocu\u011fun ihtiyac\u0131 daha fazla zaman de\u011fil, <strong>daha anla\u015f\u0131l\u0131r bir ge\u00e7i\u015f<\/strong>tir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6rne\u011fin:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cBe\u015f dakika sonra oyunumuzu bitirip haz\u0131rlanaca\u011f\u0131z.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ard\u0131ndan:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cSon iki araban\u0131 da s\u00fcr, sonra arabalar\u0131 park edip ayakkab\u0131lar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 giyelim.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck de\u011fi\u015fiklik, \u00e7ocu\u011fun ritmine yeti\u015fkinin biraz yakla\u015fmas\u0131 anlam\u0131na gelir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Bazen \u00e7ocu\u011fun davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 bize s\u00f6yleyemedi\u011fini anlat\u0131r<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6zellikle ileti\u015fim becerileri hen\u00fcz geli\u015fmekte olan veya geli\u015fimsel farkl\u0131l\u0131klar\u0131 bulunan \u00e7ocuklarda davran\u0131\u015flar \u00f6nemli mesajlar ta\u015f\u0131yabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir \u00e7ocuk s\u00fcrekli ellerini \u00e7\u0131rp\u0131yor olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir ba\u015fkas\u0131 odan\u0131n i\u00e7inde ileri geri ko\u015fuyor olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir \u00e7ocuk kalabal\u0131k bir ortama girdi\u011finde kulaklar\u0131n\u0131 kapatabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir di\u011feri ayn\u0131 oyunu uzun s\u00fcre tekrar edebilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bunlar\u0131n her birini tek bir anlama indirgemek do\u011fru olmaz. \u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ayn\u0131 davran\u0131\u015f farkl\u0131 \u00e7ocuklarda farkl\u0131 ihtiya\u00e7lar\u0131n ifadesi olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ancak davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 hemen ortadan kald\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmadan \u00f6nce bir ad\u0131m geriye \u00e7ekilip bakmak bize \u00e7ok \u015fey s\u00f6yleyebilir:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Bu davran\u0131\u015f ne zaman ortaya \u00e7\u0131k\u0131yor?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u00d6ncesinde ne oldu?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u00c7ocuk ne yapmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yor olabilir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Bu davran\u0131\u015f \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendisini d\u00fczenlemesine yard\u0131mc\u0131 oluyor olabilir mi?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6rne\u011fin markette al\u0131\u015fveri\u015f yaparken \u00e7ocu\u011funuzun s\u00fcrekli ko\u015ftu\u011funu d\u00fc\u015f\u00fcnelim.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cDur!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cKo\u015fma!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cKa\u00e7 kere s\u00f6yledim?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">demek \u00e7o\u011fu zaman ilk refleksimizdir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ama biraz daha dikkatli bakt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda marketin parlak \u0131\u015f\u0131klar\u0131, insanlar\u0131n konu\u015fmalar\u0131, arabalar\u0131n hareketi, m\u00fczik, raflar\u0131n g\u00f6r\u00fcnt\u00fcs\u00fc ve kalabal\u0131\u011f\u0131n \u00e7ocuk i\u00e7in olduk\u00e7a yo\u011fun bir ortam olu\u015fturdu\u011funu fark edebiliriz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki \u00e7ocuk \u201cyaramazl\u0131k\u201d yapm\u0131yordur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki bedeni bu yo\u011funlu\u011fu hareket ederek d\u00fczenlemeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yordur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu elbette her ko\u015fulda ko\u015fmas\u0131na izin vermemiz gerekti\u011fi anlam\u0131na gelmez. S\u0131n\u0131r koymak yine gereklidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Fakat s\u0131n\u0131r koyarken \u00e7ocu\u011fun ihtiyac\u0131n\u0131 da g\u00f6rmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fabiliriz:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cBurada ko\u015famay\u0131z. \u00c7ok hareket etmek istiyorsan birazdan d\u0131\u015far\u0131 \u00e7\u0131kt\u0131\u011f\u0131m\u0131zda birlikte ko\u015fabiliriz.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">B\u00f6ylece yaln\u0131zca davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 durdurmak de\u011fil, <strong>davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n arkas\u0131ndaki ihtiyaca ba\u015fka bir yol a\u00e7mak<\/strong> m\u00fcmk\u00fcn olur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cYava\u015f\u201d \u00e7ocuk ger\u00e7ekten yava\u015f m\u0131?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar haz\u0131rlan\u0131rken, yemek yerken, \u00f6dev yaparken veya konu\u015furken ya\u015f\u0131tlar\u0131ndan daha yava\u015f olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ve bu durum ebeveyni olduk\u00e7a zorlayabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cBir saattir haz\u0131rlan\u0131yorsun.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cArt\u0131k bitir.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cBu kadar basit bir \u015feyi neden yapam\u0131yorsun?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocuk ise belki ger\u00e7ekten elinden geleni yap\u0131yordur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6zellikle \u00f6zel gereksinimli \u00e7ocuklarda bir becerinin ger\u00e7ekle\u015fmesi i\u00e7in gereken s\u00fcre, yeti\u015fkinin tahmin etti\u011finden daha uzun olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Burada \u00f6nemli olan \u00e7ocu\u011fun h\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 s\u00fcrekli art\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak yerine, <strong>onun hangi a\u015famada zorland\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131 fark etmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6rne\u011fin \u00e7ocuk tek ba\u015f\u0131na giyinebiliyor ama \u00e7orab\u0131n\u0131 giymesi \u00e7ok uzun s\u00fcr\u00fcyorsa mesele \u201cyava\u015fl\u0131k\u201d de\u011fil, \u00e7orab\u0131 do\u011fru \u015fekilde kavrama, aya\u011f\u0131 yerle\u015ftirme ya da k\u0131yafetin bedensel duyumuyla ilgili bir g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fck olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu nedenle bazen:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201c\u00c7abuk ol.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">demek yerine:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201c\u00d6nce \u00e7orab\u0131n ucunu bulal\u0131m. \u015eimdi aya\u011f\u0131n\u0131 i\u00e7ine koyal\u0131m.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">gibi k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck ad\u0131mlara b\u00f6lmek \u00e7ok daha i\u015flevsel olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocu\u011fun ritmini duymak, onun yerine her \u015feyi yapmak de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u00c7ocu\u011fun hangi noktada deste\u011fe ihtiya\u00e7 duydu\u011funu fark etmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Bazen de \u00e7ocuk \u00e7ok h\u0131zl\u0131d\u0131r<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ritim yaln\u0131zca yava\u015flayan \u00e7ocuklarla ilgili de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n bedeni ve zihni adeta s\u00fcrekli hareket halindedir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir etkinlikten di\u011ferine ge\u00e7er.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Konu\u015furken h\u0131zlan\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Oyuncaklar\u0131 h\u0131zla de\u011fi\u015ftirir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Beklemek zor gelir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0131ras\u0131n\u0131 beklemek g\u00fc\u00e7 olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ebeveyn bir yandan \u201cBiraz sakin ol.\u201d derken \u00e7ocuk sanki frenine basam\u0131yormu\u015f gibi g\u00f6r\u00fcn\u00fcr.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">B\u00f6yle durumlarda \u00e7ocu\u011fun h\u0131z\u0131n\u0131 yaln\u0131zca bast\u0131rmaya \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmak yerine, <strong>yava\u015flama deneyimini birlikte olu\u015fturmak<\/strong> daha anlaml\u0131 olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6rne\u011fin ak\u015fam saatlerinde \u0131\u015f\u0131klar\u0131 biraz azaltmak, televizyonu kapatmak, ayn\u0131 s\u0131rayla yap\u0131lan bir uyku rutini olu\u015fturmak, yava\u015f tempolu bir m\u00fczik a\u00e7mak, birlikte kitap okumak veya birka\u00e7 dakika sessizce yan yana oturmak \u00e7ocu\u011fun g\u00fcn\u00fcn h\u0131z\u0131ndan daha sakin bir ritme ge\u00e7mesine yard\u0131mc\u0131 olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Burada ama\u00e7 \u00e7ocu\u011fa:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cArt\u0131k sakin ol!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">demek de\u011fil;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cBen seninle birlikte yava\u015fl\u0131yorum.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">mesaj\u0131n\u0131 vermektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u00c7ocu\u011fun ritmini duymak biraz da beklemeyi bilmektir<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ebeveynlikte en zor \u015feylerden biri beklemektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocu\u011fa bir soru sorar\u0131z.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Cevap gelmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Soruyu tekrar ederiz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cDuydun mu?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cCevap versene.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cNe istiyorsun?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocuk h\u00e2l\u00e2 susar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Oysa baz\u0131 \u00e7ocuklar\u0131n cevap vermeden \u00f6nce daha uzun bir i\u015flemleme s\u00fcresine ihtiyac\u0131 olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6zellikle ileti\u015fim alan\u0131nda g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fck ya\u015fayan \u00e7ocuklarda soruyu sorduktan sonra hemen ikinci, \u00fc\u00e7\u00fcnc\u00fc soruya ge\u00e7mek \u00e7ocu\u011fun cevap verme f\u0131rsat\u0131n\u0131 azaltabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bazen birka\u00e7 saniyelik sessizlik olduk\u00e7a de\u011ferlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cNe istersin?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Beklemek.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">G\u00f6zlemlemek.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocu\u011fun y\u00fcz\u00fcne, bedenine, y\u00f6neldi\u011fi nesneye bakmak.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki \u00e7ocuk parma\u011f\u0131yla suyu g\u00f6sterir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131yla se\u00e7im yapar.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki tek bir ses \u00e7\u0131kar\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki elini uzat\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u0130leti\u015fim yaln\u0131zca kelimelerden olu\u015fmaz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u00c7ocu\u011fun cevab\u0131n\u0131 duyabilmek i\u00e7in bazen \u00f6nce kendi sesimizi azaltmam\u0131z gerekir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Birlikte ritim tutmak<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ritim, ili\u015fki kurman\u0131n da g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc yollar\u0131ndan biridir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir bebe\u011fin \u00e7\u0131kard\u0131\u011f\u0131 sese annenin kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131k vermesi\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocu\u011fun masaya vurmas\u0131na ebeveynin ayn\u0131 tempoda e\u015flik etmesi\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Birlikte alk\u0131\u015flamak\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir \u015fark\u0131da ayn\u0131 yerde durmak\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Topu s\u0131rayla birbirine atmak\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bunlar\u0131n hepsi \u00e7ocu\u011fa \u015fu deneyimi ya\u015fat\u0131r:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cBen bir \u015fey yapt\u0131m ve sen bunu fark ettin.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu deneyim, \u00f6zellikle ortak dikkat ve kar\u015f\u0131l\u0131kl\u0131 etkile\u015fim becerilerinin geli\u015fimi a\u00e7\u0131s\u0131ndan k\u0131ymetlidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6rne\u011fin \u00e7ocu\u011funuz masaya \u00fc\u00e7 kez vuruyorsa siz de \u00fc\u00e7 kez vurabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocuk tekrar ederse siz de tekrar edebilirsiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sonra k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck bir de\u011fi\u015fiklik yapabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocu\u011fun sizi fark edip etmedi\u011fine bakabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Burada ama\u00e7 m\u00fckemmel bir ritim olu\u015fturmak de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ama\u00e7 <strong>birbirinizin ritmini fark etmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir s\u00fcre sonra bu basit oyun bir ileti\u015fim al\u0131\u015fveri\u015fine d\u00f6n\u00fc\u015febilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocuk:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cBen yapt\u0131m.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">der gibi masaya vurur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Siz:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cBen de yapt\u0131m.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">dersiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu k\u00fc\u00e7\u00fck kar\u015f\u0131la\u015fmalar, bazen uzun konu\u015fmalardan daha g\u00fc\u00e7l\u00fc bir ba\u011f kurabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Ebeveynin de bir ritmi vard\u0131r<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocu\u011fun ritminden s\u00f6z ederken yeti\u015fkinin ritmini unutmamak gerekir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc ebeveyn yorgunsa, kayg\u0131l\u0131ysa, s\u00fcrekli yeti\u015fmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yorsa \u00e7ocu\u011fun yava\u015flamas\u0131n\u0131 beklemek olduk\u00e7a zor olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sabah i\u015fe yeti\u015fmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fan bir annenin \u00e7ocu\u011funun ayakkab\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 be\u015f dakikada giyememesine tahamm\u00fcl edememesi \u00e7ok insani bir durumdur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ak\u015fam b\u00fct\u00fcn g\u00fcn \u00e7al\u0131\u015fm\u0131\u015f bir baban\u0131n \u00e7ocu\u011funun ayn\u0131 soruyu onuncu kez sormas\u0131na sabr\u0131n\u0131n azalmas\u0131 da \u00f6yle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bu nedenle \u201ciyi ebeveyn \u00e7ocu\u011funun ritmine her zaman uyum sa\u011flar\u201d gibi ger\u00e7ek\u00e7i olmayan bir beklenti yaratmamak gerekir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ebeveyn de insand\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bazen yorulur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bazen sabr\u0131 t\u00fckenir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bazen sesini y\u00fckseltir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6nemli olan kusursuz olmak de\u011fil, <strong>ili\u015fkiye yeniden d\u00f6nebilmektir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cAz \u00f6nce \u00e7ok acele ettim. Seni dinleyemedim. \u015eimdi buraday\u0131m.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">diyebilmek bile \u00e7ocu\u011fa \u00f6nemli bir mesaj verir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u00c7ocu\u011fun ritmini duymak, onu her istedi\u011finde yapmak de\u011fildir<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Burada \u00f6nemli bir ayr\u0131m\u0131 \u00f6zellikle vurgulamak gerekir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocu\u011fun ritmine uyum sa\u011flamak, \u00e7ocu\u011fun her istedi\u011fini yapmak anlam\u0131na gelmez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">S\u0131n\u0131rlar \u00e7ocuklar i\u00e7in gereklidir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Uyku saati olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ekran s\u00fcresi s\u0131n\u0131rl\u0131 olabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Markette ko\u015fmak uygun olmayabilir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bir ba\u015fkas\u0131na vurmas\u0131na izin verilemez.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ancak s\u0131n\u0131r koymakla \u00e7ocu\u011fun ritmini yok saymak ayn\u0131 \u015fey de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6rne\u011fin:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cTableti \u015fimdi kapat\u0131yoruz.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">net bir s\u0131n\u0131rd\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ard\u0131ndan:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u201cBiliyorum, b\u0131rakmak istemiyorsun. Son oyunun bitince kapataca\u011f\u0131z. Sonra birlikte banyoya ge\u00e7ece\u011fiz.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">demek ise \u00e7ocu\u011fun ge\u00e7i\u015f s\u00fcrecini desteklemektir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>S\u0131n\u0131r ayn\u0131 kal\u0131rken yakla\u015f\u0131m de\u011fi\u015febilir.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Peki bug\u00fcn ne yapabilirsiniz?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bug\u00fcn \u00e7ocu\u011funuzla ilgili de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015ft\u0131\u011f\u0131n\u0131z bir davran\u0131\u015f\u0131 se\u00e7in.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00d6rne\u011fin:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Sabahlar\u0131 haz\u0131rlanmakta zorlan\u0131yor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Yemekte s\u00fcrekli kalk\u0131yor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Uykuya ge\u00e7mek istemiyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>\u00c7ok h\u0131zl\u0131 konu\u015fuyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>S\u00fcrekli hareket ediyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Oyundan ayr\u0131lmak istemiyor.<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>Sorular\u0131n\u0131za hemen cevap vermiyor.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ve bug\u00fcn yaln\u0131zca g\u00f6zlem yap\u0131n.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Hemen d\u00fczeltmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmadan \u00f6nce kendinize \u015fu sorular\u0131 sorun:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Ne zaman oluyor?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Nerede oluyor?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u00d6ncesinde ne ya\u015fan\u0131yor?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u00c7ocu\u011fumun bedeni o s\u0131rada bana ne anlat\u0131yor?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Benden neye ihtiyac\u0131 olabilir?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Ben onun ritmine biraz yakla\u015fsam ne de\u011fi\u015firdi?<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki sabahlar\u0131 ger\u00e7ekten daha fazla zamana ihtiyac\u0131 vard\u0131r.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki uyku \u00f6ncesinde daha uzun bir ge\u00e7i\u015fe\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki kalabal\u0131k ortamlarda daha az uyarana\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki konu\u015fmadan \u00f6nce birka\u00e7 saniye beklememize\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki de yaln\u0131zca bizim onunla ayn\u0131 yerde, ayn\u0131 tempoda birka\u00e7 dakika kalmam\u0131za\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>Son olarak\u2026<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7ocuklar\u0131m\u0131z\u0131 \u00e7o\u011fu zaman yeti\u015ftirmeye, h\u0131zland\u0131rmaya, d\u00fczeltmeye ve geli\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015f\u0131yoruz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bazen de b\u00fct\u00fcn bunlar\u0131n aras\u0131nda onlar\u0131 <strong>dinlemeyi<\/strong> unutuyoruz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Oysa \u00e7ocuk bize her g\u00fcn bir \u015feyler anlat\u0131yor.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kimi zaman kelimeleriyle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kimi zaman bak\u0131\u015flar\u0131yla.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kimi zaman hareketleriyle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kimi zaman tekrarlar\u0131yla.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kimi zaman sessizli\u011fiyle.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ve kimi zaman da davran\u0131\u015flar\u0131yla.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Belki bug\u00fcn \u00e7ocu\u011funuza biraz daha farkl\u0131 bir g\u00f6zle bakabilirsiniz.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ayakkab\u0131s\u0131n\u0131 yava\u015f giyerken\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Ayn\u0131 oyunu tekrar tekrar oynarken\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sizinle konu\u015fmadan \u00f6nce beklerken\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kalabal\u0131kta kula\u011f\u0131n\u0131 kapat\u0131rken\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Uykuya ge\u00e7meden \u00f6nce sizden ayn\u0131 hik\u00e2yeyi bir kez daha isterken\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Kendinize \u015fu soruyu sorabilirsiniz:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u201cBen onun davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fi\u015ftirmeye \u00e7al\u0131\u015fmadan \u00f6nce, onun ritmini ger\u00e7ekten duydum mu?\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">\u00c7\u00fcnk\u00fc bazen \u00e7ocu\u011fun ihtiyac\u0131 daha h\u0131zl\u0131 ilerleyen bir yeti\u015fkin de\u011fildir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Bazen ihtiyac\u0131, yan\u0131nda y\u00fcr\u00fcyen ve onun ad\u0131mlar\u0131n\u0131n temposunu fark eden bir yeti\u015fkindir.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><strong>\u00c7ocu\u011fun ritmini duydu\u011fumuzda, yaln\u0131zca davran\u0131\u015f\u0131n\u0131 de\u011fil; \u00e7ocu\u011fun kendisini g\u00f6rmeye ba\u015flar\u0131z.<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Bazen bir \u00e7ocu\u011fun ne s\u00f6yledi\u011fini anlamak i\u00e7in kelimelerine de\u011fil, ritmine bakmak gerekir. 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